tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2409771819603362785.post4323815246531069183..comments2023-10-20T09:25:36.238-04:00Comments on A side of GRITS: Who here "Gets it"?Mendyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00968363500551483010noreply@blogger.comBlogger30125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2409771819603362785.post-77599499399850190832008-03-31T15:43:00.000-04:002008-03-31T15:43:00.000-04:00I had written a post where you commented that you ...I had written a post where you commented that you could of written it. Well, RIGHT BACK AT YA!!!<BR/><BR/>My mom now thinks because I got injured I need to "just walk". Mind you my brother had BOTH his ACL's replaced & she's never said it to him. & before this I heard her bragging to people about how I used to walk the track in Jr High, now look at me.<BR/><BR/>Then, I overheard my dad asking my brother "how much longer do you think we'll have to hear about this running crap". my bro laid into my dad that he should be proud & supportive. Noone knows I heard that.<BR/><BR/>My DH: "maybe you should take up knitting. you're not meant to be an athlete."<BR/><BR/>BUT my brother, siser, kid, aunt, all are VERY supportive, all the time. My mom was until the injury thing.<BR/><BR/>I dont' really talk about running or you guys anymore beacuse I do get the "I hear Blah, blah, blah" faces. Which I had to laugh you posted that because I JUST told my DH to listen to my words not Blah, blah, blah--he said I really sound like the Charlie Brown teacher, which makes him smile when he's fake listening. <BR/><BR/>nice, I know.<BR/><BR/>so i'm right there with ya sista! you know you're doing what YOU want & that's what important & KOOL for cryin out loud. :o)<BR/>(my Dh is an x-navy man, virginia beach, out in 96)The 311 Boys Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07005274410579263385noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2409771819603362785.post-35815455317503604972008-03-31T14:16:00.000-04:002008-03-31T14:16:00.000-04:00I would guess the people who don't "get" it are je...I would guess the people who don't "get" it are jealous and wish they could be doing what you and David are.<BR/><BR/>I am fortunate to have many people in my life who totally support me in my quest to be fit via running/racing. Even though they aren't out there running with me (wish they were sometimes), they understand why I am doing it and are happy for me. Heck, my parents even offer to buy me running stuff all the time! :-)<BR/><BR/>And my sister-in-law started running and cycling after being inspired by my success. Cool, huh?Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01506473191113043504noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2409771819603362785.post-89971475223063544942008-03-30T10:37:00.000-04:002008-03-30T10:37:00.000-04:00Wow, what a great post!!! I get it all the time, ...Wow, what a great post!!! I get it all the time, either people rolling their eyes that I would rather workout than go out for drink or people that try to babysit my efforts (shouldn't you be running now?)<BR/><BR/>I am glad I found your blog.Carlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00967080850862781446noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2409771819603362785.post-24240934918630939572008-03-30T09:16:00.000-04:002008-03-30T09:16:00.000-04:00Mendy...thanks for venting...I've enjoyed reading ...Mendy...thanks for venting...I've enjoyed reading your "rant" and I'm so with you...both from an exercise standpont and as someone dedicated to trying to lose weight. You've given me fuel for thought to yet another blog of my own about similar experiences and how they can weigh on the mind. These people that can be "friends" but be so negative I truly believe are just threatened by your ability to be consistent with what you do and they wish they could...but lack something to even get started...applause for your efforts and for being a great blog to read as I get back into a "consistent" routine myself...I'm glad I'm back...thanks.Randy - Maniac #788https://www.blogger.com/profile/17252189707697252110noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2409771819603362785.post-58436643415399086132008-03-29T17:50:00.000-04:002008-03-29T17:50:00.000-04:00You're not alone in having most people not "get it...You're not alone in having most people not "get it"<BR/><BR/>I no longer try to justify it, explain it, or otherwise talk about it with those people in my life.<BR/><BR/>The blog ends up being a good outlet and makes me feel a little more sane!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03231464198799653331noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2409771819603362785.post-32230976117761371632008-03-28T16:32:00.000-04:002008-03-28T16:32:00.000-04:00It is SO hard, isn't it Mendy? Glad to hear that m...It is SO hard, isn't it Mendy? Glad to hear that my post got you thinking. And I agree with you about the "holier than thou" thing. Even when my coworkers don't actually give me grief about my eating/workout habits, I'm always concerned that I'm making them feel bad by doing what I do. Two of the people on my team are overweigh, and one doesn't look overweight but says he's trying to lose a few pounds, so I always feel like my willpower is kind of a slap in the face to them when they get unhealthy food or don't work out. Every night when we leave, they talk about how they're too tired to work out, and they're just going to bed. Then the next day, when they ask how my night was and I say that I ran a few miles or lifted weights or whatever... it's the truth, and I make sure I don't put it in a "holier than thou" way, but sometimes it probably comes off like that. Because let's face it - our dedication is not something everyone has, and people get envious of that.<BR/><BR/>Anyway, I am just so glad that you understand what I was saying in my post :) Thanks so much for posting more thoughts! I'm probably going to stalk these comments for a while for some more ideas for how to deal.Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17100746061554733157noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2409771819603362785.post-59562396891379930852008-03-28T14:04:00.000-04:002008-03-28T14:04:00.000-04:00Hey guys! Great post. I needed a kick in the pants...Hey guys! Great post. I needed a kick in the pants. Just signed up for the Bridge Run- gonna take me about 4 days to finish. Back in it!<BR/><BR/>TiffTiffanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02858506779707030447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2409771819603362785.post-47264759356062310282008-03-28T12:27:00.000-04:002008-03-28T12:27:00.000-04:00I think it's as simple as people bash what they do...I think it's as simple as people bash what they dont understand. It's the only thing they know to do.<BR/><BR/>Personally, I sometimes like it when people comment how crazy it is to want and go run 5, 10, 13 miles. It separates something that I can do, from what they can do....and maybe it gives me a bit of selfish satisfaction ;)<BR/><BR/>On the flip side, there are many that can do things that I cannot....and it INSPIRES ME. Motivates me. Makes me push myself to want to be better.<BR/><BR/>You and David....and so many others in blogland....do exactly that for me. You are all the reasons that I didnt run one lousy race and then hang up my running shoes.<BR/><BR/>So if you ever feel crappy about the way people act about your ambitions, just remember that there are plenty of us out here that look to you for inspiration and think that you are DA BOMB!!!!<BR/><BR/>Love ya girl!!!!!Pokeyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07508944961795409606noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2409771819603362785.post-12490685749107476512008-03-28T10:51:00.000-04:002008-03-28T10:51:00.000-04:00"So why is it that it seems people want to care ab..."So why is it that it seems people want to care about you, just NOT what's important to you"<BR/><BR/>Oh, I totally get this. I happens in so many aspects of my life, mostly running/working out and my Relay for Life stuff. I vent to my husband about it all the time, and you summed up my complaint perfectly. <BR/><BR/>He tells me to just keep on doing what I do and not worry how others react to it. Plus, there's always our fellow workout fanatics in blogland!RunnerGirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07217423305510565454noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2409771819603362785.post-22362130724568532372008-03-28T09:12:00.000-04:002008-03-28T09:12:00.000-04:00Mendy! Great post - thanks for getting all these ...Mendy! Great post - thanks for getting all these thoughts down, I really want to spend more time reading. Also, thank you for helping spread the word about our MDA Stride & Ride 5K! I hope to see you there (and any of your friends). Again, AWESOME job with your street 2 street pick-ups... I'm telling you, it will make a huge difference! fun fun funAshleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09723388478908491006noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2409771819603362785.post-24771530300296369092008-03-28T01:56:00.000-04:002008-03-28T01:56:00.000-04:00Soooo...what are you saying? ha ha haYou know how...Soooo...what are you saying? <BR/><BR/>ha ha ha<BR/><BR/>You know how I feel: if people give me crap and talk about the freak that runs and swims and cycles all the time, I just say, "Hell yeah! Cause I totally rock!" They may want to get to me, and make me reconsider, but I turn it around and make them think I'm feeding off them noticing me exercising. Even if it shakes me a bit, I don't let it show, and therefore I'm less shaken in the long run.<BR/><BR/>But it does help to have a bunch of other exercise freaks out here in the eWorld that get "it".Davidhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02232949586286921191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2409771819603362785.post-23426420771259209272008-03-27T23:38:00.000-04:002008-03-27T23:38:00.000-04:00Great post Mendy!I'm inspired by your and David's ...Great post Mendy!<BR/><BR/>I'm inspired by your and David's commitment EVERYDAY! I actually was surprised to read that it is still a pretty new lifestyle for you three..you go girl!<BR/><BR/>Jealously rears its ugly head more then we want to see...ITA that it is jealousy.<BR/><BR/>Bravo to your mom! She doesn't understand but she still brags you guys up :DNikkihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08918393878624652492noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2409771819603362785.post-46148858802582325712008-03-27T22:34:00.000-04:002008-03-27T22:34:00.000-04:00Well, you know you hit a chord with all of us. Th...Well, you know you hit a chord with all of us. That's been something I've had to struggle a lot with lately. I sometimes feel a tug of war with people in my life who don't seem to understand this world at all. And I'm trying to find a balance, but there are some days where I just wish people would understand it. Just for a second. And I know that all of my bloggy friends do.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03706171809005188744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2409771819603362785.post-70284936072457169182008-03-27T22:17:00.000-04:002008-03-27T22:17:00.000-04:00Having a community of friends, near and far, virtu...Having a community of friends, near and far, virtual and in the flesh, who get "it", is da bomb :-)Weshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11399853707178925175noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2409771819603362785.post-11070480154860495172008-03-27T20:23:00.000-04:002008-03-27T20:23:00.000-04:00I know exactly what you are talking about, chica! ...I know exactly what you are talking about, chica! Some of the people that I know that give me the hardest time and don't "get it" are those who do absolutely nothing but complain of being overweight or sick or blah blah blah. It gets old... real fast.teacherwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15791382386588836461noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2409771819603362785.post-75667182726379872632008-03-27T20:07:00.000-04:002008-03-27T20:07:00.000-04:00Next time, just tell them that you are doing it pu...Next time, just tell them that you are doing it purely for financial reasons. Training for triathlons is a much cheaper solution to staying sane than the booz, drugs and theapists that all of them are paying for to keep from putting a gun in their mouth. I'd be interested to see their answer to that.<BR/><BR/>Seriously, most of these people can't conceptualize that this sort of training can actually be fun. Their only experience with running is having to do a lap or two during high school gym class or running around the block once and finding out that it hurts. Of course it hurts, you've never done it before! Let them think you are crazy. Let them continue to live their shallow little lives with their shallow little goals. When they are in their 60s or 70s and spend all their time going to doctors while you are still out running around, you will know it was worth it. Next time they say you are crazy, just tell them "yep, I must be crazy," smile and walk away. They they might just wonder what it is that they are missing out on.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02378547566593756176noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2409771819603362785.post-60523802852225554342008-03-27T20:00:00.000-04:002008-03-27T20:00:00.000-04:00Me, me, me - I get it! And I get exactly what you'...Me, me, me - I get it! <BR/><BR/>And I get exactly what you're sayin' here! <BR/><BR/>I actually lost some friends on my quest to a healthier me. But who cares? I don't - well I did at the time, but not anymore. I got made fun of all the time for my eating, but once I lost 30 lbs, then my chubby friends are like "how did you do it?" Uhm DUH - idiots. <BR/><BR/>Everyone is going to have some lame opinion about how you should live. But only you and your husband "get it." You're doing awesome!P.O.M.https://www.blogger.com/profile/16410533843419723414noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2409771819603362785.post-2757059983171020492008-03-27T18:43:00.000-04:002008-03-27T18:43:00.000-04:00Awesome post chica! I absolutely agree with what ...Awesome post chica! I absolutely agree with what everyone has already said. This is why I *heart* all my RBF's. You guys are pretty much the only peeps that "get it" Of course fam and close friends are supportive (well, in the ways that they can be considering that they don't have the love for running as much as me) but it's kinda like you're speaking a foreign language or something. As long as we've got each other, right? We can all be cra-zay together :PMarcyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14148093449696230770noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2409771819603362785.post-78113524241775944792008-03-27T17:40:00.000-04:002008-03-27T17:40:00.000-04:00Aww Mendy!! What a great post!! I definitely can...Aww Mendy!! What a great post!! I definitely can relate!! I am so tired of being the "freak" at family events. This is so well written and I love how you expressed it all!J~Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05801414494327642020noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2409771819603362785.post-83498484952986190802008-03-27T17:35:00.000-04:002008-03-27T17:35:00.000-04:00Un-frickin' believable! These people are seriousl...Un-frickin' believable! These people are seriously jealous of you and your commitment to yourself. They DON'T get it! That's why so many Americans are obese...they don't commit, they don't practice discipline, they don't care! <BR/><BR/>Keep it up, sista!Erichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09938392851403907707noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2409771819603362785.post-2395032333691313872008-03-27T14:47:00.000-04:002008-03-27T14:47:00.000-04:00The others are right. Comments of that nature are...The others are right. Comments of that nature are motivated by jealousy, nothing more.<BR/><BR/>I suppose the best anyone can do with those who don't understand is simply to accept the fact that they won't comprehend that part of your life and try not to allow it to bother you.<BR/><BR/>Always better said than done.Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01465800584212530717noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2409771819603362785.post-42063512048305954792008-03-27T14:26:00.000-04:002008-03-27T14:26:00.000-04:00Nice post Mendy, thanks for sharing what most of u...Nice post Mendy, thanks for sharing what most of us feel but haven't been able to put into words! <BR/><BR/>Follow your passion, because that's what you have, passion for life, passion for fitness and most importantly a passion for your family, David and Grace are what count and I'm so glad that you have one another. You are teaching amazing life lessons to your little sweetpea and setting an example that she will carry with her throughout her life.<BR/><BR/>Life is to live and if we listened to the nay sayers, nothing would have ever been accomplished in this world, we'd all be knuckle dragging neanderthals eating raw meat.<BR/><BR/>Enjoy what you do, be proud of who you are and the challenges you have given yourself. Don't associate yourself with negative people.<BR/><BR/>This is what a really good friend of mine emailed me yesterday because I was second guessing myself trying to get ready for my first marathon at age 55,<BR/><BR/>"Don’t forget you’re a truly amazing woman doing all you do. You should be so proud of your accomplishments to date AND your future accomplishments that you’ll acquire. You CAN do the marathon. Maybe a little motto of mine will help. “Give yourself some credit and cut yourself some slack”.<BR/><BR/>So Mendy, cut yourself some slack and enjoy everyday. I love "stalking" your blog because you are so real and so genuine....you inspire ME!<BR/><BR/>Thanks for the great "chat", you've made my day.Lily on the Roadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02275939535831908513noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2409771819603362785.post-32612407600426655352008-03-27T13:55:00.000-04:002008-03-27T13:55:00.000-04:00Amen, sister!You and David are such amazing role m...Amen, sister!<BR/><BR/>You and David are such amazing role models to your little munchkin... something I hope to do myself one day. Keep it up!!!! :)sunshinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18242610800073587191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2409771819603362785.post-38780958423703741942008-03-27T13:22:00.000-04:002008-03-27T13:22:00.000-04:00I'm told not to talk about it, in which this shuts...I'm told not to talk about it, in which this shuts me down...<BR/>~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~<BR/>I hear that from time to time in Ultra land that peeps don't say what they do cause people don't get it and think we are all crazy....<BR/><BR/>HMMMM I say "WHATEVER" I share what I am doing and LET Them THINK I am crazy, cause I THINK they are crazy for sitting on the Couch, moaning whining and complaining about whoever comes to mind--LOL <BR/><BR/>SOOO with that SAID ...Don't you ever shut down and not express what you do in ur conversations with someone if YOU believe in it and it makes you feel good ... <BR/><BR/>YES we will get some BS comments back sometimes but you said it already it's their little defensive (small minded)mechanism and I like to share what I am training for NOT for them but to KEEP me accountable, the more I share the more I say "CRAP I better keep on training since I told all those people"--HAHAHA<BR/><BR/>MY BALL MY BAT MY GAME!!--Bob that sounds a little cocky .. ya a little but ONLY the Lord above determines my fate not my friends family or neighbors. <BR/><BR/>SO BE SO Grateful you are focused on something (like fitness) and YES you ARE an AWESOME role model to Grace...Showing her YOU can be fit and do that other stuff (job, school etc...)<BR/><BR/>Amen!!!! God is GOOD! Do ur thing Chica :-)and KEEP being fired up about it, Ok? OK!!!Bob - BlogMYruns.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08529878931334675228noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2409771819603362785.post-91618267567612537912008-03-27T13:17:00.000-04:002008-03-27T13:17:00.000-04:00It is a great this to be part of a community of th...It is a great this to be part of a community of those that “get it” and want to be healthy by a good diet and exercise plan.<BR/><BR/>It is very easy for a LAZY person to attack an active one for no other reason than pure jealousy. Sad but true. There is times that what another person says may hurt. They are the lost ones.<BR/> <BR/>Sad that some of our closest families and friends really don’t even know us and the passion that drives us to do the things we do. <BR/><BR/>Just think of all the money they spens at lunch each day. Unreal if you ask me.Gotta Run.....https://www.blogger.com/profile/03647983887882662002noreply@blogger.com